Posts Tagged ‘Emotions’

A New Spin On Fear Of Failure!

December 6, 2008

Wanted a ‘lie-in’ this morning.  Been a busy few weeks one-to-one coaching, and training some great energy managers in the NHS.

And the thought of just waking up this morning whatever time my body wanted felt superb last night.  That is, until my eyes popped open at 6.25 am and my mind began jiving its own particular version of rock around the clock!

So I got up with the intention of having breakfast, reading a little with my coffee and then going back for a snooze… which often works for me.  Not this morning.  Too enthused by thoughts I read in a book by Seth Godin which I’ll feature soon.  Here’s a couple that got my imagination going…

It’s not fear of failure that inhibits us from being/doing remarkable things but the fear of destructive criticism.  It’s the fear of that pointing finger of blame, of ridicule and humiliation.

If you’re not uncomfortable in your work as a leader then you’re probably not reaching your potential as a leader.

So… how about you; what memories, ideas, pictures and musings do these thoughts stimulate in you?

Leave Your Heart At Home

September 1, 2008

This is a crazy world! Sometimes working with women I get told they’re told there’s no place for emotions aka ‘feelings’ at work.

Correction! It’s OK for some people to get frustrated at work, angry at work… even to take out their frustrations on other people at work. And, in some circumstances, but not all, it’s OK to crack a joke at work or ‘yer ‘avin’ a larrf’ as a friend of mine would say.

It’s NOT OK to bring empathy, compassion, tenderness or gentleness to work. Oh no! Not in the cut and thrust of global empires, the distorted use of politics and mental machinations.

Yet it’s those very ‘heart-felt’ emotions that we need in the aridness of the organisational world today. People need to count. People need to be valued. People need to be appreciated. People need to be considered. Then they’ll give of their very best because they’ve been treated as they deserve… the very best.

So… how can you bring some heart-felt emotion into your world of work today???