Posts Tagged ‘Professional Development’

Snowed Under!

February 9, 2009

Ever had that feeling? Well, that’s how it’s been in the UK the past week or so and that’s how I realise I’ve been the last few months. Lots of exciting new projects and exciting things to do and I got so carried away with the ‘exciting’ that I forgot there were only so many things I could do in the one 24 hours. Super Woman rode again!

How easy it can be to slip back into my default patterns when I take my eyes off the ball. Only saving grace is that I recognise what I’m doing these days at the first few signs of falling back into a hole rather than when I’m in there at the bottom of a pit without a ladder!

And once I recognise the signs, I take action. Luckily, I’d already booked earlier this year for some chilling and time out days at Woodbrooke, a comfortable en-suite, great food, welcoming peaceful atmosphere Quaker conference and training centre with wonderful grounds, Chinese Garden and lake… http://www.woodbrooke.org.uk It was even more magical cloaked in a deep layer of snow.

My walking boots left hefty imprints beside those of birds and small mammals. The air was crisp in my nose and my exhalation left moisture in the air that disappeared into the whited out, muted landscape. Just me and it as the snow crunched with a pleasurable softness beneath my feet. Rest and re-connection time with my self, purpose, passion and power.

So what default pattern catches you out, how do you get snowed under? And how do you get yourself out of that particular hole?

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Presidential Address

January 18, 2009

If the world ever needed more of the traditionally thought of female/feminine principles, approaches and skills it has to be now… And the USA president elect appears to be an example of an organic urge for that paradigm shift to occur, one amongst many unpublicised examples emerging in both female and male leaders of all kinds.

A shift toward being both task and relationship oriented, of being proactive and receptive, of collaboration rather than conflict, of logical intelligence married with intuitive skills, of strength partnered by compassion… of what I call ‘joined-up being’ as well as joined-up thinking.

And Barack Obama seems to be a man attuned to this movement, an evolutionary push toward who knows what in the development of our species and planet earth. No wonder what he says and how he says it plucks a chord in so many people around the world… and the chord which resonates is one of hope!

Hope for something far more fulfilling, for a way of being that calls us to our highest, deepest and our best. A calling to purpose, passion and power with the Intention of the highest good for self and others and the Will to the highest good for self and others.

I’m absolutely on line for that! How about you?

PS  Hear the man in action with One Voice Can Change A Room http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=sRqLRLI0q4g

PPS Read his inaugural speech http://www.pic2009.org/blog/entry/president_obamas_inaugural_address/

Over The Top!

December 27, 2008

Reading a book by Seth Godin on leadership… my marketeer of choice… I came to a bit where he says, ‘If you’re not over the top, you’re not going to have any chance at all of making things happen’.

Firstly, having spent a life with family and ex-husband telling me explicitly or implicitly I was ‘too much’, embarrassing them, ya-di-ya-di-ya, it’s a chocolate profiterole with cream kind of pleasure to be told ‘over the top’ is fine. (Though what constitutes over the top is not defined, leaving my imagination to run deliciously riot as to the joys that await me!)

However, that is most definitely not the only way to make things happen. You can do that by default, by not making choices and letting others make them for you. You can do that by going for less than you want or desire, ending up disappointed but, hey, you didn’t put your head above the parapet did you?!

Choice time!

With 2009 approaching, you can be doing same old same old OR you can start learning how to be over the top for you. Yes… not like me, or Amy Winehouse or Madonna! What’s just a baby stretch bit more over the top for you? And what positive things might happen because you did it?

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Wishing you a deliciously creative 2009 and remember… over the top is most definitely the place to be. Subscribe here and discover how!

A New Spin On Fear Of Failure!

December 6, 2008

Wanted a ‘lie-in’ this morning.  Been a busy few weeks one-to-one coaching, and training some great energy managers in the NHS.

And the thought of just waking up this morning whatever time my body wanted felt superb last night.  That is, until my eyes popped open at 6.25 am and my mind began jiving its own particular version of rock around the clock!

So I got up with the intention of having breakfast, reading a little with my coffee and then going back for a snooze… which often works for me.  Not this morning.  Too enthused by thoughts I read in a book by Seth Godin which I’ll feature soon.  Here’s a couple that got my imagination going…

It’s not fear of failure that inhibits us from being/doing remarkable things but the fear of destructive criticism.  It’s the fear of that pointing finger of blame, of ridicule and humiliation.

If you’re not uncomfortable in your work as a leader then you’re probably not reaching your potential as a leader.

So… how about you; what memories, ideas, pictures and musings do these thoughts stimulate in you?

What Kind Of Leader Are You?

November 30, 2008

The whole topic of leadership’s been pre-occupying me for some time now… leadership of self and others. And there’s as many definitions of leadership as there are people to write them.

One of my favourites is from Alan Keith, a former corporate finance director at the pharmaceutical firm, Genentech, who said “Leadership is ultimately about creating a way for people to contribute to making something extraordinary happen.”

And how do you do that? In an article to be published in the winter edition of Rapport Magazine (www.anlp.org) I suggest leaders need to have more ‘joined-up being’ to include their heart centred and soul-full aspects as well as traditionally thought of feminine approaches and qualities as well as masculine ones.

A tall order? I don’t think so!

Enabling people to contribute, enabling people to make something extra-ordinary happen demands that leaders grow themselves. It demands they be inspiring and motivating role models for humanity in the 21st century.

And each one of us is a leader however small our circle of influence. So what’s it going to be? What are you going to do to become such a leader? How are you going to do that? When are you going to do that? And where?

No excuses!

And if you think I’m being unreasonable in my demands on you… surely, not little ole me?… I’m delighted. I’m totally fed up being ‘reasonable’ by tolerating less in myself and so in others. I know what I’m doing about becoming the kind of leader I want to be led by…

WHAT ABOUT YOU?!

Every time I close the door on reality, it comes in through the windows

July 8, 2008

Jennifer Yane’s quotation reminded me that when the Universe has got a lesson to teach you it comes knocking on your door and, if you ignore it, the Universe comes back a while later and knocks even harder. If you still ignore it, the Universe comes back later and this time knocks and kicks at your door. And, if you still ignore the Universe and the lesson it has to teach you, it’ll come back even later. Only this time it’ll kick your ****** door down.

How sensible then to have open windows!

Because the lesson we need to learn often comes through reality flying in through them and hitting us right in the face. Not that we didn’t previously know about it at some level. We just didn’t let it be conscious, be real.

The relationship that you suddenly recognise is damaging, the job that’s draining your soul, the piece you recognise about yourself and your behaviour, the chaos that you’re creating through lack of care, the fear that’s holding you back from recognition or indeed how blessed you are with what you have in your life. A myriad of realities throughout our lives ready to help us stretch ourselves and grow.

A myriad which we often keep the door closed and shut on just in case we have to do something. Oh no! Not the ‘action’ thing? Yes, that action thing. That thing called being response-able, able to respond to and act upon what’s calling us to change.

Often such times evoke our greatest fears about lack of security, losing love, rejection and the possibility of abandonment. But, hey, when your re-action (hyphenated on purpose) is the strongest, it’s a clue as to how much of your potential that lesson, that bit of reality, is offering you as its prize.

In recent times, reality flew in my windows at gale wind speed… never one to do things by halves… and it was about being called to shed some old and redundant beliefs and behaviours that I’d covered up with bravado. To get more real in its truest sense!

To be more authentically me and more vulnerable… and paradoxically more safe only it didn’t feel like it at the time… through shedding some brittleness and some shoutiness that had attempted to defend me against hurt. Not that it had worked particularly well… does it ever?!

Well I kicked and screamed and fought to begin with. And although I’m through that bit now I’m still a work in process. Shedding the old, not quite sure what the new is like and making it up as I go along with a bit of inner and bigger guidance. And I’m still here; no loss of security or love, no rejection or abandonment. At least, if I have been rejected or abandoned, I certainly don’t feel it.

So… what’s the reality that came in through your windows? What lessons did it teach you? And how did you change and grow out of it?

Do let me know and take the possibility of helping others face their realities through your named experience being featured in my upcoming book. Comment as gloriously as you wish below….

Love to you…

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